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Dump the bucket list: Make it so

original drawing by FG Ostrom

Today’s piece comes from a comment by Gary Ostrom, a friend of mine. In response to my article about How to Die Without Regrets, he wrote that after a health scare, he “decided to change “Bucket List” into my “Make it So’ list – bought my cello and became a whole lot more candid about my feelings for others.”

From Collecting to Implementing

I love learning from the wisdom of others, and I found Gary’s comment inspiring. Many of us have a Bucket List, or more accurately a ‘maybe someday’ list. By turning over the bucket and implementing a ‘Make It So’ list, Gary intentionally made space for his dreams in reality.

There is no dithering, no hesitation in the phrase ‘make it so’. It assumes the outcome because the author intends to ‘make’ it happen. Gary gathered the tools (bought a cello), learned to play, and set up regular practice time.

There is another clue in his comment. He intentionally became “a whole lot more candid about my feelings for others.” Expressing one’s feelings in a healthy manner instead of holding them in is another pillar in keeping mentally healthy.

Don’t Wait

There is even a cautionary bit in Gary’s tale – one I hope we all learn from. His revelation and changes came after a health scare. I was also motivated to change because of a health scare. For those with a bucket list and good health, I encourage you to pay attention to Gary’s words and take the following actions:

  • Move dreams from your Bucket List to your Make it So list. Gather equipment or tools, learn, practice. Implement into your calendar and your life.
  • Express yourself. Life is short. Tell friends and family how you feel.
  • Do it before a health scare. Do it Now. Make it So.
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Want to make your soul grow? Here’s advice from Kurt Vonnegut

In 2006 several high school English students were assigned by their teacher, Mrs. Lockwood, to write to a famous author and ask for advice. Below is an excerpt from what was sent by Kurt Vonnegut. I think it is worth taking to heart.

Mr. Vonnegut’s advice

” Practice any art, music, singing, dancing, acting, drawing, painting, sculpting, poetry, fiction, essays, reportage, no matter how well or badly, not to get money and fame, but to experience becoming, to find out what’s inside you, to make your soul grow.

Seriously! I mean starting right now, do art and do it for the rest of your lives. Draw a funny or nice picture of Ms. Lockwood, and give it to her. Dance home after school, and sing in the shower, and on and on. Make a face in your mashed potatoes. Pretend you’re Count Dracula.

Here’s an assignment for tonight, and I hope Ms. Lockwood will flunk you if you don’t do it: Write a six-line poem, about anything, but rhymed. No fair tennis without a net. Make it as good as you possibly can. But don’t tell anybody what you’re doing. Don’t show it or recite it to anybody, not even your girlfriend or parents or whatever, or Ms. Lockwood. OK?

Tear it up into teeny-weeny pieces, and discard them into widely separated trash receptacles. You will find that you have already been gloriously rewarded for your poem. You have experienced becoming, learned a lot more about what’s inside you, and you have made your soul grow.”

Grow your soul

Mr. Vonnegut encourages all sorts of self-expression, without expecting outside payoffs. “Start right now, and do it for the rest of your lives.” His advice is not only soul-enriching, it sounds like fun. I’m in. How about you?